Hello! My name is Vernessa Chuah.
I am no stranger to grief and loss.
I was five years old when I lost my elder brother (two years older) to brain cancer. I thought people only die when they are old.
I was bleeding profusely that I could not leave the toilet bowl, only to found out I had my first miscarriage.
My second pregnancy had no heartbeat at 10 weeks.
The third pregnancy was the most heart-wrenching, a decision I never imagined making. The baby’s organ was outside of it body and we ended in a planned abortion.
The first six years of our marriage, the hospital surgery room became a familiar visiting place. I was undergoing multiple operations, including a severe childhood ear infection, which eventually caused me to be 100% completely deaf in my right ear.
I lost the ability to hear certain sound frequency and consonant words. The first hearing test after my surgery, I intentionally did not respond even when the lady repeated the word consistently. She got worried and asked if I could hear anything at all. I still have one good left ear. I explained I could hear but was very confident that was not the word she said, and was trying to figure out what is the actual word. She asked what I am hearing. I awkwardly replied: “Fxxk” (unfortunately she did not reveal the answer so it’s still a mystery until today). And of course, I did not pass the hearing test with flying colours.
In 2016, my inner ear bones were removed and I loss my vestibular balance system. I could not walk straight, coordinate on the bicycle or have a conversation in a crowded restaurant.
In 2019, I faced a potentially life-altering surgery that threatens my facial nerves and muscles. I was afraid this time, if my facial nerves were to be affected, I would lose the ability to even smile, let alone have clear speech.
This infection has a 25% chance of reoccurrence in my lifetime.
In 2024, I was notified of its reoccurrence on the same day as my pregnancy kit tested positive.
These episodes help me found my calling in grief. This is why I do this work.
I help parents who experienced child, infant and pregnancy loss to break free from their thoughts and process that make them feel stuck.
I provide a supportive space that welcomes all their emotions including the anger, anxiety, triggers, jealousy, intense sadness and pain.
I journey beside them to hear their story, process their feelings and shift their narrative with powerful modalities such as mindfulness practice, somatic work, ontological coaching, art expression, tension release exercises and grief recovery method.
This isn’t about forgetting, running away or moving on.
I share how to establish a safe container to release and move forward with the grief.
As your coach, I will guide you to move beyond surface-level change and get to the heart of what’s really holding you back and why this is so important for you. Repatterning your narratives and shift your lens, so you can redefine what is truly possible.
The 52 stitches on my head taught me to maintain a healthy inner voice and gave me the power to empathise deeply with others’ grief. I’ve learned to channel this empathy into a supportive energy that many find comforting during times of loss.
Your healing journey starts here
As the first pregnancy loss and grief coach in South East Asia, I support clients from Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, Philippines and around the world since 2011. No matter where you are right now, I am here to co-partner in your grief and healing journey.
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Vernessa Chuah
My path to becoming a grief recovery specialist was paved with personal hardships and profound losses. I faced three heart-wrenching pregnancies—the first two ending in miscarriages and the third, a…
Hello, I’m Vernessa Chuah, founder of Mindful Space and the pioneering pregnancy loss coach in Southeast Asia. I am a certified advanced grief recovery specialist, equipped to support you through…
Pregnancy and Infant Loss
25% of pregnancy result in a loss
80% of the loss are beyond our control (due to chromosome abnormalities).
Yet many live in shame, anger, guilt and pain.
There is a lack of support to normalise pregnancy loss.
My dream is to support bereaved parents from suffering in silence.
My dream is to embrace this not-talk-much-about pregnancy and infant loss.
You are not alone.
My professional trainings and personal journey uniquely qualify me to hold space where you can truly be seen and heard.
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