Parenting Coach in Singapore for Calmer, More Connected Families
Gentle, practical coaching for parents who want to shout less, connect more and feel confident guiding their children through big emotions, everyday struggles and every new stage. We walk together outdoors in nature, or meet online.
A complimentary 20 minute call to see if we are the right fit.
Parenting Coaching with Vernessa at a Glance
Parenting coaching is a transformative and empowering co-partnership between you and Vernessa Chuah, an ICF certified parenting coach in Singapore. Together we explore the why behind your parenting choices, calm your nervous system and build strategies that fit your unique family dynamics.
- Who it is for
- Parents, co-parents and caregivers of toddlers, children and teens
- How to start
- A complimentary 20 minute discovery call, booked on WhatsApp
- Where
- Outdoors in a Singapore park, garden or by the beach, or online
- Journey
- Minimum of 6 sessions, 60 to 90 minutes each, over up to 12 months
- Approach
- Ontological coaching with mindfulness, somatic movement, art, journaling and TRE®
- Between sessions
- Check ins for accountability and boundary setting
You Are Not Alone
There Is No Perfect Parent. There Is a Good Enough Parent Who Keeps Growing.
We often know what to do. Yet in the busyness of life, with work, school runs, tuition, helpers and grandparents all in the mix, we find ourselves slipping into stress reactions and old patterns. We raise our voice, then feel guilty. We try a new strategy, then lose steam.
In a non judgmental and safe container, you have the opportunity to explore your own experiences and uncover how your past influences your parenting style. We explore the why behind your parenting choices and what is within your control: how you show up.
Giving yourself permission to navigate the complexities of parenting with intention and self compassion, you grow yourself as your children grow.
Connection before correction.
Being before doing.
Growing yourself as your children grow.
What Parents Come to Me For
Common Parenting Challenges I Help With
Every family is different, but many parents in Singapore reach out when these everyday moments start to feel heavy. If any of these sound familiar, you are in the right place.
Tantrums and Meltdowns
Understand what sits beneath the storm and learn calm, respectful ways to guide your toddler or child back to steady ground.
Big Emotions and Emotional Regulation
Help your child name, feel and move through anger, worry and frustration, with simple tools you can practise together at home.
Not Listening and Power Struggles
Move from nagging, threats and bribes towards cooperation, clear boundaries and positive, respectful discipline.
Yelling and Losing Your Patience
Discover what triggers you, regulate your own nervous system first, and repair lovingly when things go wrong.
Sibling Rivalry and Fighting
Reduce comparison and competition, and nurture siblings who can solve conflict and truly enjoy each other.
Screen Time and Device Battles
Set healthy, realistic screen limits without daily arguments, and bring back play, boredom and connection.
Bedtime, Routines and Mealtimes
Create calmer mornings, evenings and bedtimes with rhythms that work for your household and your child's temperament.
School Stress, Exams and PSLE Pressure
Support your child through homework battles, exam anxiety and school transitions while protecting your relationship.
Parenting a Neurodiverse Child
Gain understanding and practical strategies for children with ADHD, autism, sensory needs or learning differences, adapting the environment to your child.
Co-Parenting and Different Parenting Styles
Get on the same page with your partner, grandparents or helper, so your child experiences consistency and everyone feels heard.
New Baby, Big Changes and Transitions
Navigate a new sibling, a move, starting preschool or Primary 1, separation or loss, with steadiness and reassurance.
Parent Burnout and Mum Guilt
Feel held and supported. Rest, self compassion and your own wellbeing are the foundation of a peaceful home.
A Co-Partnership
Coaching Is a Partnership of Equals
Coaching holds the belief that you are whole, complete and creative, and that you can find the answers within yourself. I am not the expert of your family. You are. My role is to shine a light on blind spots, widen the way you see a situation and offer a different awareness.
Parenting coaching and therapy: how they differ
| Parenting Coaching | Therapy | |
|---|---|---|
| Starting point | You are whole, complete and creative, and able to find your own answers. | Assumes there is an issue to be diagnosed and treated. |
| Relationship | A co-partnership with equal power. The coach walks beside you, not ahead of you. | The therapist is the expert who provides solutions and advice. |
| Focus | The present and future. We revisit the past only to notice where a story or belief began, so you can move forward. | Often works deeply with the past to heal trauma and emotional wounds. |
| Outcome | Your own awareness, choices and goals for yourself and your loved ones. | Diagnosis and treatment of mental health conditions. |
Parenting coaching is a distinct process focused on empowering you. It is not a form of therapy or a direct intervention for children.
What I Bring
- I arrive on time, prepared and fully present with an open heart
- I hold a safe, respectful and non judgmental space
- I keep our conversations confidential
- I gently point out when you seem to drift from your own goals
- I keep your wellbeing, and your family's, at the centre
What You Bring
- A focus you would like to lean into for each session
- Openness, curiosity and a willingness to step outside your comfort zone
- Small, realistic actions between sessions
- Honest feedback about what is and is not working for you
- Compassion for yourself on the hard days
“While I cannot walk this path for you, I am here to walk it with you. Even on hard days, showing up in whatever way you can is enough.”
My Approach
Ontological Parenting Coaching: Body, Emotions and Language
Ontological parenting coaching focuses on your way of being rather than solely on actions or strategies. Rooted in a systems based philosophy, it looks at how three connected parts of you shape your inner voice, your identity and every interaction with your child.
Body
Your body keeps score of stress and tension. Learn grounding and regulation practices so you can respond instead of react.
Emotions
Welcome every feeling, yours and your child's, and understand the message each emotion carries.
Language
Explore the stories you tell yourself and the words you use at home, and shift your lens to redefine your family narrative.
By exploring your inner narratives, past influences and relational dynamics, you are empowered to break generational patterns and approach parenting through introspection. Sessions blend coaching conversation with gentle, practical tools:
Inside a Session
What a Coaching Session Looks Like
Each session is 60 to 90 minutes and shaped around what you need that day. Many parents tell me that simply being outdoors, moving and breathing, helps them think more clearly than sitting across a table.
Mindfulness to Ground
A short mindfulness practice to settle your body, slow your breath and arrive fully in the moment.
Coaching on Your Focus
A deep, honest conversation on the topic you choose, from a recent meltdown to a pattern you want to change.
Body and Creative Practice
Art, journaling, mindful walking, somatic movement or TRE®, chosen to suit your needs and the weather.
How It Works
Your Parenting Coaching Journey
A supportive space that welcomes all your emotions, a safe container to hear your story, and a journey together to shift your lens and redefine your narrative.
Free Discovery Call
Reach out on WhatsApp and share a little about your family. A complimentary 20 minute call helps us see if we are the right fit for each other.
Begin Our Partnership
You share your hopes for your family and what matters most to you right now. Coaching is fluid, so each session follows what you bring in that moment.
Coach, Move and Reflect
Meet for a minimum of 6 sessions over up to 12 months, outdoors in nature or online, at a pace that suits your family.
Practise and Grow
Try small, realistic actions at home. Between sessions we hold check ins for accountability and boundary setting, so your growth stays steady and sustainable.
Meet Your Coach
Why I Became a Parenting Coach
I have always known, from a very young age, that I wanted to be a teacher. Teaching and coaching has never just been a profession for me. It is a calling of the heart. Over the past 20 years, my journey has taken me across Canada, Australia, Malaysia and Singapore, learning alongside children and adults across both Western and Eastern cultures.
As a mother of two beautiful daughters and three angel babies, this work became even more personal. I know, intimately, how much parents long to be present, patient and loving, yet how easily we can feel overwhelmed, exhausted and unsupported. This is a journey I walk myself, and continue to learn from, every single day.
My parenting coaching and Mindful Space were born from this place of lived experience and deep compassion: a gentle, nurturing and safe space where families can slow down, reconnect, reflect, relearn and grow together.
- Ontological parenting coach integrating mindfulness, somatic movement and creative arts
- ICF certified coach
- Parent and teacher workshop facilitator for preschools, primary schools and MOE educators
- Experienced in supporting families of neurodiverse children
- Certified TRE® Provider and Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist®
- Singapore's first ICF certified pregnancy and infant loss coach
What Parents Say
Stories from Parents and Educators
“Through the coaching sessions, I have learnt that the way that I talk to myself can harm me not just mentally but physically too. I also learned that what I think might not be the truth, even though to me it seems like it is. The shift I noticed in myself since coaching with Vernessa is I am nicer to myself in the way that I talk to myself, especially when going through something difficult. Vernessa is a great listener and friend, I would recommend her if you are looking for coaching.”
“Many relevant examples and practical strategies were shared that enlightened the way we possibly can handle young children during meltdowns. Patient and interactive in answering queries from both parents and educators. We have tried the strategies and already see improvement in the children!”
More Ways I Can Support You
Support for the Whole Family
Keen to know more about our parent and child programmes? Visit www.mindfulspace.com.sg
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions About Parenting Coaching in Singapore
What does a parenting coach do?
A parenting coach partners with you to understand what is really happening at home, why certain moments trigger you, and what you would like to do differently. The coach does not hand you a script. Instead they shine a light on blind spots and widen the way you see a situation, so you can find strategies that suit your child and your family.
How do I get started with parenting coaching?
Send a WhatsApp message to 9783 7313 sharing a little about your family and what you hope to change. We then have a complimentary 20 minute discovery call to make sure we are the right fit before you begin your coaching journey of at least 6 sessions.
Where are parenting coaching sessions held?
In person sessions are held outdoors in a Singapore park, garden or by the beach, which allows mindful walking and somatic movement to be part of the coaching. Sessions can also be held online by video, which suits busy parents and families overseas. On rainy days we can move to a cafe or online.
How many sessions do I need and how long is each session?
A coaching journey includes a minimum of 6 sessions of 60 to 90 minutes each, spaced over up to 12 months at a pace that suits you. Each session usually includes a short mindfulness practice for grounding, around 60 minutes of coaching on a focus you choose, and around 20 minutes of a supporting practice such as art, journaling, mindful walking, somatic movement or TRE®.
How is parenting coaching different from therapy or counselling?
Coaching sees you as whole, complete and creative, and is a co-partnership of equals focused on the present and future. Therapy is led by a clinical expert who diagnoses and treats mental health concerns and often works deeply with the past. Coaching is not a substitute for therapy, and the two can work well side by side.
What challenges can parenting coaching help with?
Parents in Singapore commonly seek support for tantrums and meltdowns, big emotions, not listening, yelling and losing patience, sibling rivalry, screen time, bedtime struggles, school and PSLE stress, parenting a neurodiverse child, different parenting styles with a partner, grandparents or helper, new baby and family transitions, communicating with teens, and parent burnout.
Is parenting coaching one to one?
Yes. Parenting coaching with Vernessa is a private one to one journey focused on you, your inner world and the way you show up for your family.
Do you support parents of neurodivergent children?
Yes. Vernessa regularly supports parents and educators of children with ADHD, autism, sensory needs and learning differences, focusing on regulation, connection and adapting the environment to the child.
Is parenting coaching confidential?
Yes. Coaching conversations are held in confidence and are not shared with anyone without your permission, unless required by law or if there is a concern for your safety.
What is TRE® and why is it part of the coaching?
TRE®, or Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises, is a gentle body based practice that activates the body's natural tremoring reflex to release deep muscular tension and calm the nervous system. It is always optional and is offered only when it is safe and suitable for you.
You Are Courageous for Seeking Support
In life's most important and rewarding journey, you do not have to walk alone. When you are ready to commit to your own growth, I am here to walk beside you.
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