Pregnancy & Infant Loss Coaching · Singapore & Worldwide
Your healing matters.
Choose the journey that calls to you.
Two personalised programmes to support you through miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, IVF loss and infant loss — at the pace your heart needs. Both are held with equal care, presence, and intention.
You are not alone in this
Grief is not a problem to be solved.
It is a weight to be gently carried — together.
Whether your loss was recent or carried quietly for years, this coaching space is for you. There is no right way to grieve, no expectation to be anywhere other than exactly where you are. What we build together is a foundation — mind, body, and emotions — so you can move forward without leaving your baby behind.
Both programmes below are designed for you, wherever you are in the world. Sessions can be held in person (Singapore, in a garden, park or beach) or online, at a pace you choose: once a week, twice a month, or once a month.
As seen in
"People are afraid of tears. They may think — I'm afraid she's going to cry, and I don't know what to do about it." In coaching, tears — and everything they carry — are welcome.
Dr Tong Pei Yein experienced four miscarriages since 2015. After her last loss in March 2022, she reached out to Vernessa Chuah. Through pregnancy loss coaching, she was finally able to articulate her grief, let go of guilt, and find her way back to herself.
Read More →"Losing a baby is one of the most profound griefs a human being can carry — yet so often, it is carried in silence."
Inside the work
Every tool is chosen with intention.
Each approach is woven together to support your mind, body and emotions as a whole — because grief lives in all three.
Both Programmes
Ontological Coaching
A journey on your way of being — not just what you do, but how you see the world. Rooted in the interconnectedness of Body, Emotions and Language, this coaching expands the observer in you, opening new choices and new possibilities. You bring the courage; I walk with you.
Both Programmes
Mindfulness Practice
Grief can scatter us — pulling us into the past with regret or into the future with fear. Mindfulness practice gently returns you to now: grounding, steadying, and creating a gentler relationship with yourself and your body.
Both Programmes
Art Journaling
Some feelings resist words. Art journaling creates space to express, release, and honour what lives in you through colour, image and mark-making. No artistic experience needed — only a willingness to show up.
Both Programmes
TRE® — Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises
Your body keeps score. TRE® safely activates a natural reflex mechanism of tremoring that releases deep muscular tension, stress, and trauma stored in the body since birth. By working with the PSOAS system, the nervous system calms, and the body finds its way back to safety.
Learn more about TRE® →Somatic Practice for Regulation
Deeper body-based work that supports nervous system regulation, embodied safety and emotional presence. Somatic practice helps you reconnect with your body as a place of belonging rather than pain — essential for those preparing for a future pregnancy.
Grief Recovery Method® (GRM)
An evidence-based, internationally recognised 7-step method to complete the emotional pain of any grief — not just pregnancy loss, but any loss you carry. GRM gives you practical, empowering tools you keep for the rest of your life, rooted in the groundbreaking work of the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale.
Learn more about GRM® →Before you step in
A space with no pressure, no timeline.
Grief coaching is not therapy — and it is not advice-giving. It is the practice of being fully present with someone in their pain, and gently helping them find their own path through it.
In our sessions, you will never be told to "move on," to "stay strong," or that "everything happens for a reason." You are allowed to feel everything — the anger, the numbness, the love, the longing.
Every emotion is here to tell you something. It shows up in your body. Our goal is not to remove sadness, but to achieve emotional agility — where you can sit with the uncomfortable and move forward when you are ready.
Have a Conversation First →You need someone to sit with you in the dark, hold a light steady, and trust that you know the way out — even when you cannot see it yet.
That is what we do, together.
Who this is for
Your loss matters — at every stage.
This space is for every parent who has experienced pregnancy or infant loss — whether it happened last week or years ago. Whether you've told the world or carried it quietly. Whether you're trying to conceive again or simply trying to breathe.
Miscarriage
Early or late — every loss deserves to be mourned. You don't need to minimise what happened to you.
Stillbirth
You held a whole world in you. The grief of a stillbirth is profound, and it is met here with the fullness it deserves.
Termination for Medical Reasons (TFMR)
A loss made from love — and one of the most isolating grief experiences. You are not alone, and you are not judged.
IVF & Fertility-Related Loss
The grief of failed cycles, lost embryos, and the long road of fertility treatment is real and valid — even when others don't understand.
Infant Loss
Whether your baby lived for hours or months — your love was complete. Your grief deserves the same completeness.
Subsequent Pregnancy Anxiety
Carrying again after loss can feel terrifying. This work helps you reconnect with hope, your body, and yourself.
Find your path
Essential Care Journey may be right if…
- You are in the early or more recent stages of grief and looking for a grounded place to start
- You want to explore coaching before committing to a longer journey
- You want a focused, meaningful programme without a long time commitment
- You want body-based support (TRE®) alongside emotional coaching
- Your loss feels singular and you want space to process it with someone who truly understands
Kintsugi Journey may be right if…
- You are ready to go deeper and invest more fully in your long-term healing
- You carry grief from more than one loss — pregnancy loss or any kind of grief
- You are planning a future pregnancy and want to feel emotionally safe and prepared
- You want the lifelong tools of GRM® to complete emotional pain once and for all
- You want the spaciousness that 12 sessions over 3–12 months allows for lasting change
Two pathways, one intention
Find the support right for you.
Both programmes are held with the same warmth and care. The depth of what you receive depends on how much time and space you feel ready to give yourself.
Essential Care Journey
A nurturing foundation for recovery
A focused, personalised programme to give you a grounded place to land and begin healing. Especially meaningful if you are in the early stages of grief or exploring coaching for the first time.
What's included
- ✓ Ontological Coaching Expands the way you see, move and act — shifts how you hold your story and opens new possibilities.
- ✓ Mindfulness Practice Grounding and present-moment tools to calm the mind and gently reconnect with yourself.
- ✓ Art Journaling Creative expression to access and release what words alone cannot reach.
- ✓ TRE® — Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises Body-based practice to release deep muscular stress and trauma stored in the body. Calms the nervous system from the ground up.
Kintsugi Journey
Honouring your wounds as part of your wholeness
Kintsugi is the Japanese art of mending broken things with gold — honouring wounds as part of your beauty and wholeness. This deeper container adds the internationally recognised Grief Recovery Method, giving you lifelong tools to complete emotional pain not just from this loss, but from any grief you carry. Especially meaningful if you are planning a future pregnancy.
Everything in Essential Care Journey, plus
- ✓ Ontological Coaching Expands the way you see, move and act — shifts how you hold your story and opens new possibilities.
- ✓ Mindfulness Practice Grounding and present-moment tools to calm the mind and gently reconnect with yourself.
- ✓ Art Journaling Creative expression to access and release what words alone cannot reach.
- ✓ TRE® — Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises Body-based practice to release deep muscular stress and trauma stored in the body.
- ✦ Somatic Practice for Regulation Deeper body-based work to restore safety, presence and emotional regulation.
- ✦ Grief Recovery Method® (GRM) — evidence-based, internationally recognised A structured 7-step method to complete the emotional pain of grief and any undelivered communication — tools you carry for life.
Not sure which to choose? The Essential Care Journey offers a gentle, grounded beginning — ideal if you are in early grief or want to begin with six sessions and see how healing unfolds. The Kintsugi Journey is chosen by those who feel ready to go deeper, who carry grief from more than one loss, or who are preparing emotionally and mentally for a future pregnancy. If you are still unsure, reach out for a free conversation before you commit to anything.
The story behind the work
Why this work exists.
In 2018, Vernessa lost her daughter Violet through Termination for Medical Reasons. What followed was a period of profound grief, isolation, and a desperate search for support that simply didn't exist in Singapore. The question she kept returning to was: why is no one talking about this?
Pregnancy loss is experienced by 1 in 4 pregnancies worldwide — yet it is one of the most silenced grief experiences of our time. Parents are sent home with no support, no map, and often no language for what they're feeling.
"My angel babies guide my work every day. They taught me that vulnerability is not a weakness — it is the doorway to your greatest strength."
In 2021, Vernessa began her training as a pregnancy and infant loss coach — not as a career plan, but because she knew the void that needed filling. Today she supports bereaved parents across Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, the Philippines and beyond.
No parent should grieve without a guide.
About Vernessa
Southeast Asia's first ICF-certified pregnancy loss & grief coach.
Vernessa Chuah is Southeast Asia's first ICF-certified pregnancy and infant loss coach, and an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist. She has walked this path personally — through three pregnancy losses, including the loss of her daughter Violet. She began this work in 2021, because she knew what it felt like to search for support and find nothing.
Her approach weaves ontological coaching, somatic body-based practices (TRE®), the evidence-based Grief Recovery Method, art journaling, and trauma-informed care — because healing needs to happen in the mind, the body, and the heart.
Vernessa has been featured on CNA, The Straits Times, Sassy Mama, Mediacorp and Channel NewsAsia. 80% of her clients have successfully carried a pregnancy to birth following their coaching journey (2021–2025).
What bereaved parents say
Words from those who walked this path.
“Vernessa's coaching is personal, speaks to my heart and touches the raw points compared to just a generic coaching session. It's like a healing session on top of just a coaching session.
— Michelle
“I felt this coaching was different — more personal, as though it was a conversation with a friend. The questions were really good, difficult at times, but they helped me confront my subconscious thoughts and discover new insights.
— L.Y.
“I no longer question or blame myself for who I am today, especially for what happened with Una. I celebrate her visit instead. It was bittersweet.
— Arum Dyastari
Your investment
This is not just a coaching package.
This is a commitment to yourself.
Grief can quietly cost you your relationships, your sense of self, your confidence in your body, and your hope for the future. This investment is in reclaiming those — not by forgetting, but by learning to carry your loss with wholeness and love.
80% of Vernessa's clients have successfully carried a pregnancy to birth after their coaching journey (2021–2025). What you do here matters — not just for now, but for everything that comes after.
A note on subsequent pregnancy
"8 in 10 clients who came to this work during a subsequent pregnancy carried their baby to birth."
Every birth is a miracle. But so is every mother who survives the storm.
This number is not a cold guarantee. It is a reflection of what unfolds when the mind and body can finally rest, out of chronic anxiety and into regulated resilience. It is the result of a co-partnership: your courage, and mine, working together.
If you are carrying a fear that lives in your bones, the kind that makes every scan feel like a countdown, or every quiet hour without a kick feel like a crisis, please know that there is room to change how you move through it.
My work is not about "fixing" your grief. It is about helping you build a container where that grief is held, and courage can grow. It is about teaching your nervous system new rhythms so that your decisions come from steadier ground.
You may be wondering…
Common questions.
Coaching is different from therapy, though they can work well alongside each other.
Coaching holds the belief that you are whole, complete and creative. You already have the answers within you. My role as your coach is to hold an equal, co-partnering space with you. I am not the expert on your life. What I do is shine a light on your blind spots, shift and expand how you see things, and help you become more aware of the choices available to you.
Therapy, by contrast, tends to look back to address unresolved trauma or mental health concerns. It assumes there is something to diagnose and treat, and the therapist takes on more of an expert role.
Coaching focuses on the present and the future. When we do revisit the past, it is to understand where a certain story or belief took root in you, so we can deepen your awareness and move forward. The goal is always to support you in building new possibilities for yourself and the people you love.
If deeper clinical support is needed alongside our work together, I will gently help you explore those options. Both can work together beautifully.
Learn more about GRM® →
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