You Don't Have to Carry
This Grief Alone

Therapy is clinically focused — diagnosing conditions and treating disorders in a medical framework, delivered by licensed mental health professionals.

Grief coaching is a co-partnership that works with you as a whole, capable person — not a patient. It is forward-focused, helping you process your loss and complete unfinished emotional pain. Vernessa is a certified Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist® and ICF coach who integrates TRE somatic work, the Grief Recovery Method®, and ontological coaching to support healing at every level.

Coaching is not a replacement for psychiatric care if that is needed, but a powerful complement or standalone path for many bereaved parents.

Most grief support focuses on the mind alone. Vernessa's approach works with all three essential dimensions of grief:

• Body (Somatic) — TRE® works bottom-up, releasing grief and trauma stored in your nervous system and muscles without needing to retell your story.
• Mind (Emotional Pain) — The Grief Recovery Method® addresses incomplete emotional pain: the things you wish had been different, more, or better. It gives your grief language and completion.
• Emotions (Identity & Meaning) — Ontological coaching shifts the lens through which you see yourself and your loss, transforming shame, guilt, and "who am I now?" into a new, grounded sense of self.

This both bottom-up and top-down approach is rare in grief work — creating shifts that are felt in your body and emotional being, not just your thinking.

TRE® stands for Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises, developed by Dr. David Berceli. It activates the body's natural tremoring mechanism — gently releasing deeply held stress and trauma from the muscles and nervous system.

Grief after pregnancy and infant loss is not only emotional — it is deeply physical. Your body carried your baby. Your body experienced the loss. Somatic work honours this, releasing what talk-based approaches cannot always reach: the weight in your chest, the tension in your jaw, the heaviness in your limbs.

You do not need to retell your story or relive painful memories. TRE works through the body's own intelligence.

The Grief Recovery Method® (GRM) is a structured, evidence-based programme that helps grievers identify and complete the unfinished emotional business of loss — the apologies, forgiveness, and things they wish had been different, more, or better.

Many people get stuck in grief because they never had the opportunity to say what needed to be said. GRM provides a safe and structured way to complete this — so you can carry your love forward without carrying the pain.

Vernessa is a certified Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist® and one of the few practitioners in Singapore trained in this method.

Your customised coaching and healing journey is a co-partnership together. Feeling safe on this journey takes time as you navigate deeper with your body and emotions. It can get uncomfortable when you dive deep — sometimes, you might want to run away from it (flight mode). Yet part of healing is taking the courage to be vulnerable and be comfortable with these unpleasant feelings. Vernessa's role as your coach is to shine a light on these blindspots and give you the space and time to unpeel the layers one step at a time.

You are important, and the intention is to walk this journey together. The six sessions are the minimum requirement for you to have a different awareness — finding the courage and language to observe and express in various areas and blind spots.

Many clients extend beyond six sessions, as new possibilities open to explore other topics of interest outside of grief and loss — including work, relationships, family, and parenting.

Your healing journey takes time, investment and effort. I care for you.

You do not need to be ready to talk about everything. Many women begin support while feeling unsure, numb, or overwhelmed.

This is a gentle and safe container that respects silence, pacing, and emotional readiness. Support may include gentle grounding, body awareness, or simply being accompanied in your experience.

If you are looking for gentle grief support after miscarriage, stillbirth, IVF or fertility loss, or termination — you are welcome exactly as you are.

If you are in acute crisis or experiencing symptoms of severe depression, suicidal ideation, or psychiatric conditions, please first connect with a mental health professional or crisis line. Coaching works best as a complement or next step.

If you are in grief — no matter how raw or how long ago — and you are ready to be witnessed, to begin to process, and to find a path through, coaching can be deeply supportive. You do not need to have your story together before reaching out. Vernessa holds space for wherever you are.

The best way to know? Book a free discovery call. There is no obligation, and it is a chance for you to feel whether this is the right fit.

All services are open to both men and women. Fathers and support persons are warmly welcomed. Partners grieve too — often in silence and without support, because attention naturally focuses on the birth parent.

Each session is customised to where you are and what you need. There is no expectation to grieve in any particular way.

No. A loss from 15 years ago is still a loss. Unprocessed grief does not have an expiry date — it waits for us. Many clients come years or even decades after their loss, having never truly been given space to grieve.

Whether your loss is recent or long ago, you deserve to be heard and supported. It is never too late to begin.

Yes — all forms of pregnancy and infant loss are supported here, including:

• Miscarriage (at any stage)
• Stillbirth
• TFMR (termination for medical reasons)
• Neonatal loss
• Failed IVF cycles and embryo loss
• Ectopic pregnancy
• Infertility grief

All loss is real loss. There is no hierarchy of grief here.

Yes. Pregnancy after loss is its own unique and often very anxious experience — carrying both hope and fear simultaneously. If you wish to join the Holding Space circle, please let Vernessa know in advance so the space can be pre-framed in a trauma-informed way.

For 1-to-1 sessions, this is a safe and welcome space for you exactly as you are right now.

This is one of the most common — and heartbreaking — barriers to seeking help. There is no threshold of grief you must meet. There is no loss that is "too small" to matter.

A very early miscarriage, an embryo that didn't implant, a termination for medical reasons — all of these are losses, and all are worthy of support.

You do not need to prove your grief. You simply need to be here.

This Holding Space: Pregnancy, Baby and Infant Loss Circle is for you if:

• You experienced a miscarriage recently or years ago
• You had a termination for medical reasons (TFMR) and carry complex grief
• You experienced a stillbirth or infant loss
• You are navigating IVF fertility loss
• You feel isolated in your grief
• You want safe, compassionate support in Singapore

Whether your loss was early or late, visible or unseen, planned or unexpected — your grief is valid. You do not need to compare your loss to anyone else's. You do not need to minimise it.

This is a small, intimate gathering created to provide compassionate support for miscarriage, TFMR, stillbirth, infant loss, and IVF fertility grief in Singapore. This is not therapy. This is not advice-giving. This is not a comparison. This is a carefully held emotional space where:

• Your story can be spoken at your own pace
• Your silence is also respected
• Your anger, guilt, sadness and longing are welcome
• Your body's responses are honoured
• You are not asked to "be strong"

Every man's and woman's grief journey is different. There is no timeline for healing after miscarriage or infant loss. There is only the next gentle step.

Yes — the Holding Space circle is offered at no cost as a community gift. It runs bi-monthly and is open to anyone who has experienced pregnancy or infant loss, regardless of when it happened.

Sessions may include mindfulness, sharing, art or journaling, and are facilitated in a trauma-informed way. Capacity is kept small (8–10 participants) so that everyone is truly seen and heard.

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No. Vernessa is a Singapore-based practitioner who serves clients globally. Support is available both online and in person (for Singapore-based clients).

Many women living with Asian heritage prefer to seek support for pregnancy loss from someone who understands their cultural background — the unspoken expectations, the pressure to "move on," and the particular silence around grief in many Asian families.

Online sessions are suitable for those who prefer privacy, flexibility, or live abroad — whether in Malaysia, Indonesia, the Philippines, Australia, the UK, or anywhere else in the world.

If you are seeking support for pregnancy loss in Singapore, you can reach out to learn more about available in-person options.

Sessions are available both in-person in Singapore and online via video call. Vernessa has supported clients across Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, the Philippines, and beyond since 2021.

TRE sessions can be facilitated online with guidance, though some clients prefer in-person for somatic work. All other services work equally well in both formats.